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excerpt: The Boundaries Song: How to avoid being as co-dependent as the couples in 70's power ballads from the 'This or Prozac' series by Matt Prager Many people believe the following are ways to set healthy boundaries: "You're speaking to me in that tone again. This conversation is over." "I told you that topic is off limits." "You're being selfish; I won't accept that kind of behavior." "We agreed you wouldn't say things like that to me." These are not boundaries; they're rules. It's not uncommon to confuse boundaries with rules. Whereas a boundary is a general statement about desire, a rule is a specific statement about behavior. Boundaries tell people how to treat you; rules tell people how to behave. Boundaries are about self-assertion; rules are about control. Boundaries are about your needs; rules are about your needs being filled by other people. Boundaries are about you; rules are about them. An example: Let's say you're in the early stages of dating someone and really like them except for this one thing - they email or text you instead of talking to you on the phone. You don't like email - you like the phone. So you decide you're going to set a boundary. You're going to state your needs and clarify for the other person how you would like to be treated... Buy and download the full essay: Amazon Barnes & Noble Google Kobo scribd Outpost19 To learn more about Matt, click here.